How can I help make manners second nature for my 6 year old son?
As with most kids, he says please when he wants something, but sometimes when I am not around, I’d observe him calling for people in a certain tone of voice that I wouldn’t find unacceptable, and will, at times grab a toy from another child. Sometimes he forgets to say please or thank you and I have to constantly remind him. How can I help him make manners second nature?
You make manner second nature by modeling them yourself– you and your hubby need to at all times remember that he is watching and imitating you. If you always use nice tones of voice, he will mimick you eventually.
Another important thing to do is practice. Set up a little time every week where you can pretend to be another child and he can ask politely for the toy etc. Or practice whichever manners you want to reinforce.
Remember, if you make it a priority on a daily basis, he will understand the importance of manners.
May 31st, 2010 at 6:16 pm
You just have to keep reminding him until he gets it.
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May 31st, 2010 at 6:37 pm
You make manner second nature by modeling them yourself– you and your hubby need to at all times remember that he is watching and imitating you. If you always use nice tones of voice, he will mimick you eventually.
Another important thing to do is practice. Set up a little time every week where you can pretend to be another child and he can ask politely for the toy etc. Or practice whichever manners you want to reinforce.
Remember, if you make it a priority on a daily basis, he will understand the importance of manners.
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check out this book, it’s great!
http://www.amazon.com/Manners-Guide-Rearing-Perfect-Children/dp/0743244176
May 31st, 2010 at 6:53 pm
Just keep on him this is what I did w/ my step children they had no manners chewed w/ their mouth open and never said please and thank you and they never ever cleaned up after themselves because their mothers never taught them now it is second nature because I was on them like flies on stink…even their mothers are impressed, and others notice it as well…so just keep it up and don’t hesitate to call him out on something if you see him doing something wrong when he thinks your not around…good luck!!
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May 31st, 2010 at 7:16 pm
You start when they are still infants. You talk to them in a calm tone of voice, when they grab toys from someone else you take it away from them and tell them that’s not nice and give it back to the other child. By the time a child is six the pattern has already set in. Where was the teachings when he was two?
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May 31st, 2010 at 7:47 pm
children learn from their parents. If you use manners when dealing with them and others it becomes second nature for them to do it too. I try to use them all the time even if it is a little thing like "Thank you for shutting off the TV when you finished watching Sponge Bob" or "Thank You for helping your sister tie her shoes" "Could you please help me carry this bag? and then Thank you for helping after we are done" I now see my 7 year old suggesting others say please and thank you too
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