What is the ettiquette for a baby shower for a second child?
I’m pregnant with my second child and just found out it’s a boy (my first is a girl). Do people have baby showers for children other than their first?
We don’t need anything (or want to ask anyone for anything) and can afford to get what we need. I just know all my family and friends will get us something anyway so I thought it might be nice to get together and give them treats and whatnot. What do you think?
As I understand it, it is acceptable (according to "etiquette") for you to have a shower for your son since your first baby was a little girl 
I have two boys and I wanted to celebrate the arrival of my second son as well…but seeing as I already had everything I needed for his arrival (and "etiquette" says no shower for same-gender baby number two) My sister hosted a "casserole" shower for me instead! It was a lot of fun and in the invitations she printed up a cute saying asking the guests to bring a freezable casserole instead of a gift It was a great idea!!
"What about showers for a second baby?
It is perfectly acceptable to host a shower for a second baby. After all, the parents will need a few new items. However, proper etiquette states that only family members and very close friends should be invited to the shower of a second child, although you can invite people who did not attend showers for the first child."
http://www.lifetoolsforwomen.com/f/baby-shower.htm
May 31st, 2010 at 6:36 pm
don’t assume you get one.
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May 31st, 2010 at 7:14 pm
No only the first child. Isn’t that enough?
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May 31st, 2010 at 7:39 pm
Some do – I think it’s in bad taste though. If you can’t afford to get supplies for the child, then you should have wait to get pregnant until you could.
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May 31st, 2010 at 8:04 pm
As I understand it, it is acceptable (according to "etiquette") for you to have a shower for your son since your first baby was a little girl
I have two boys and I wanted to celebrate the arrival of my second son as well…but seeing as I already had everything I needed for his arrival (and "etiquette" says no shower for same-gender baby number two) My sister hosted a "casserole" shower for me instead! It was a lot of fun and in the invitations she printed up a cute saying asking the guests to bring a freezable casserole instead of a gift
It was a great idea!!
"What about showers for a second baby?
It is perfectly acceptable to host a shower for a second baby. After all, the parents will need a few new items. However, proper etiquette states that only family members and very close friends should be invited to the shower of a second child, although you can invite people who did not attend showers for the first child."
http://www.lifetoolsforwomen.com/f/baby-shower.htm
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May 31st, 2010 at 8:49 pm
My understanding is that you only have one baby shower even if second child is a different sex.
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May 31st, 2010 at 9:02 pm
i was in your exact shoes. a girl then a boy. for my first baby, my family had the big shower at church with all the extras. for my second baby, my mil had a "family shower". she made a great dinner and family and close friends came. it was a very relaxed atmosphere. no games and since i had all the large gifts such as stroller, high chair, bouncy seat, etc, all the gifts were geared toward a baby boy.
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May 31st, 2010 at 9:43 pm
No! You only get one baby shower, one wedding shower, no matter how many times you get married…. etc.
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May 31st, 2010 at 10:09 pm
Sometimes. I have two kids and they were just over five years apart, I also worked someplace new and had many new friends from my oldest going to school. My new friends threw it for me and I simply told family what was going on and that their presence at the party – simply to celebrate the birth was what I wanted.
I also did not contact my wider circle of relatives aunts, cousins etc. We had a nice time and lots of laughs. No one felt pressured and it went well.
Generally with a 2nd child people will bring gifts but after the birth rather than before – expect to see lots of blue.
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May 31st, 2010 at 10:35 pm
Of course, I believe ALL babies should be celebrated!!! I had showers for all three of mine. If nothing else, it’s just a time for you to relax and talk to friends and family. Don’t give yourself the shower though, have someone else.
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May 31st, 2010 at 10:55 pm
Unless there is a large gap between births a second child usually does not get a shower. You can have a private get together though
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May 31st, 2010 at 11:15 pm
If you are from the south your friends and family might throw a small one for you. We tend to have one for pretty much every child. But like they say don’t assume you will get one.
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May 31st, 2010 at 11:59 pm
If you want to celebrate the second child, have a dinner party not a shower. A shower obligates the invited to spend money on you.
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June 1st, 2010 at 12:28 am
The celebration for a child after the firstborn is called a "Baby Sprinkle". Google it.
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June 1st, 2010 at 12:48 am
if people want to throw one its fine, its not required for any but the first. But it is common in most places. For example if you work then your co workers may have one, or your church
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