Will my image be ruined if I do not practice etiqutte?
I do not believe in etiquette because:
(a) I do not believe in committing myself to someone, to the extent that I have to greet him with a smile or speak formally.
(b) I prefer to stick to business and I do not trust a person, going by his etiquette.
(c) Until the person knows me well and respects me for that, I see no reason why I shoud show manners.
I forgot to add, I stay in an underdeveloped nation, so I guess I am accustomed to practices of the surrounding, although in circumstances to the contrary, I remain indifferent.
(c) Until the person knows me well and respects me for that, I see no reason why I shoud show manners.
Right on, *****, why don´t you **** off then?
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That is a very short-sighted and doomed attitude, love. Showing manners has absolutely nothing to do with living in an underdeveloped or developed country. I am dead sure people in whatever-country-you-are-from show respect and treat each other in a way that is considered respectful…within the village, the county, the community… etc.
So you´re basically saying you don´t greet people with a smile or speak formal to them at all? That´s what you´re saying with a). How do you expect people to get to know you well and respect you then, as you request in c) ?
Think again. 
May 26th, 2010 at 1:58 pm
(c) Until the person knows me well and respects me for that, I see no reason why I shoud show manners.
Right on, *****, why don´t you **** off then?
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That is a very short-sighted and doomed attitude, love. Showing manners has absolutely nothing to do with living in an underdeveloped or developed country. I am dead sure people in whatever-country-you-are-from show respect and treat each other in a way that is considered respectful…within the village, the county, the community… etc.
So you´re basically saying you don´t greet people with a smile or speak formal to them at all? That´s what you´re saying with a). How do you expect people to get to know you well and respect you then, as you request in c) ?
Think again.
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May 26th, 2010 at 2:27 pm
In underdeveloped nations, they don’t have etiquettes. Etiquettes is a Western concept. Knock yourself out.
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May 26th, 2010 at 2:43 pm
So you do not believe in people getting along with each other peacefully in society??? THAT is the definition of etiquette.
As long as human beings are SOCIAL creatures, and need to be able to "get along" with each other, then there will be RULES for interacting with each other which help keep things at peace.
I haven’t a CLUE what (a), (b), or (c) have to DO with etiquette!
Social interactions have nothing to do with COMMITMENT. If you even SEE another person, then you are socially interacting with them. Do you "move around" them when you walk passed them on the street or do you RAM RIGHT INTO them as if they were not there at all? Etiquette is the "rule" that says it’s better to walk AROUND the person rather then body-slamming them to the ground.
Business and trust, and "his" etiquette? Each society has their own set of etiquette rules. There is no "HIS" set, "HER" set, or MY set… there is THE set of rules. Now, in the Japanese culture, it is proper etiquette to bow when introduced to someone. But in the western cultures, we do the "handshake" thing. There might be a clash of cultures if someone tries to handshake while the other bows, but in their own respective cultures, BOTH are correct in their etiquette. And it has nothing to do with business or trusting. Social interactions are SOCIAL interactions… period.
As for point (c)… this is so wrong of you! Why do you WAIT to be "respected" before you show respect to another? Wouldn’t it be more gracious of you to show respect to another simply because you are a gentlman (or a lady)? So, for you, it’s alright for YOU to be RUDE to someone you just met because they don’t KNOW you well? So if someone just introduced you to the president of your country you would refuse to greet them, shake their hand (if this is the custom) or bow (if this is the custom), just because the president of the country doesn’t KNOW YOU very well???? That’s REDICULOUS! Wouldn’t it be SO much better for you and your culture if you showed respect to others even if you are not shown respect?
I DO believe in etiquette… it is the glue that holds societies together, and makes our social interactions more peaceful. It is when people violate etiquette that problems happen.
Have a polite day.
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